A Four Day Old On Christmas

Rebecca with her newborn in a restaurantRebecca H. McCormick, Fairfax City, Virginia

I hadn’t expected that my first time leaving the house with my new baby would be for all-you-can-eat Balkans cuisine on Christmas Eve, but there we were.

From the time I first calculated my due date in April 2019, I had tried my best to scale back the holidays. I was due on Christmas Day, and I needed to somehow manage a five year old with big holiday expectations, my own tendency to take on too much, and the likely reality that I would have a brand new baby in my arms between mid-December and New Year’s Day.

I tried to read up and listen to some good advice including a New Beginnings blog post that suggested each family member write out a few things they really wanted out of the holiday season. We had sat down as a family, and luckily, almost all the items were easily compatible with a newborn or could be done early in the month well before my due date.

But there was a sticky wicket. My son had been talking all year about doing the same Christmas Eve dinner as we had in 2018 at a nearby restaurant. In November, I made the reservations and crossed my fingers that it would all work out.

So midnight of December 21st brought the start of contractions, and I had a baby in my arms by 3 a.m. By 5:30 a.m., baby and I were tucked in bed, happily nursing as the birth helpers quietly paraded out after giving kind but firm instructions to stay in bed for the next week.

I guess that I’ve never been much of a rule follower. I did stay in bed almost exclusively that week, but on Christmas Eve, I made an exception. With the help of my parents who were visiting from out of town, we loaded up a car and made the short drive to the restaurant. Baby fell quietly asleep on the ride over, slept through the entire meal nestled in a sling, and only began stirring to nurse as dessert was being contemplated. I basked in the beautiful, powerful afterbirth hormone tonic, surrounded by family and good food.

I was so happy that by defining expectations of each person we could feel successful in doing just enough rather than too much. It will always be a Christmas to remember.

List with Christmas wishes of her family


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