Breastfeeding support can look different from family to family and from child to child. Ideally, breastfeeding support should go beyond just the family unit to wider family and friends and even the broader community and employers.


Often support people are unsure of what to do to help a nursing pair. While your role in the early days is to feed the baby, what about your partner’s role? These ideas can really make a difference:

  • Keep food on hand, especially no-fix, easy-to-eat, one-handed food, and foods high in fiber.
  • Set up a sleeping arrangement that works for everyone. Don’t be afraid to try a few different ones to see what works best, which may involve separate sleeping spaces for a while. Be flexible!
  • Monitor visitors and discourage guests from overstaying their welcome.
  • Run errands including getting groceries.
  • Adjust the positioning of the pillow or help with a latch.
  •  Adjust the lighting in the room.
  • Refill a water bottle or grab a phone charger.
  • Change the baby’s diaper.
  • Clean and cook.
  • Massage baby or the nursing parent
  • Encourage with love. Often, words of encouragement can be the best help for a new parent full of self-doubt.


My Partner’s Unwavering Support, LLL USA blog

How Men in My Family Support Breastfeeding, LLL USA blog

La Leche League’s Impact on My Life: A Father’s Perspective, LLL USA blog

How can my partner help me?, LLL USA Facebook

How can I help and encourage my wife while she’s struggling?, LLL USA Facebook

How do I help a friend who is struggling to breastfeed?, LLL USA Facebook



Are you unsure of what to do when visiting parents with a newborn? How long should you stay? What is helpful, and what isn’t? Here are some tips to help you navigate this exciting time:

  • Don’t assume they are available. Being at home doesn’t mean that they are free. Call or text to make sure your visit isn’t a burden.
  • Don’t come empty-handed. Food doesn’t have to be homemade but should be nutritious and easy to eat with one hand.
  • Wash your hands immediately when you arrive.
  • Don’t visit if you are sick, recovering, or “coming down with something.”
  • Instead of asking to hold the baby, help around the house including doing the dishes, switching the laundry, refilling a water bottle, or bringing food to a couch-bound parent.
  • Don’t stay too long. Take your cues from the parents who may be tired and ready for a nap themselves. Try not to stay longer than 15 minutes unless they request otherwise.



Many parents experience a roller coaster of emotions after having a baby, from joy and elation to worry and sadness. Mix big feelings with limited sleep and meeting the needs of a new baby, and new parenthood can feel overwhelming at times.

Having a baby is a life-changing experience, and around 85% of women experience some kind of mood disturbance postpartum.[1]  Despite being so common, postpartum mood disturbances are not always talked about, leaving some people to feel alone and wondering if they are good enough parents. Talking openly about your postpartum experiences with others going through the same thing can combat feelings of isolation and shame. Going to a La Leche League meeting is a great place to find other new parents to share experiences with.

Sometimes the emotional changes that come after a new baby become postpartum mood disorders. Baby blues are generally short lived and go away on their own.[2]  For some people, however, these mood changes do not go away on their own. Postpartum depression, postpartum anxiety, and postpartum psychosis are treatable conditions and help is available. You do not need to deal with them on your own. If you are worried about your mood, please speak to your healthcare provider.

There are organizations including Postpartum Support International which provide support for, and information on, postpartum mental health. Your city, county, and state likely have additional resources which can be found through an online search. If you are feeling suicidal or feel that you may harm your child, please call the suicide prevention hotline at 1-800-273-8255.

Read more about The Role of Breastfeeding in Protecting Mothers’ Mental Health by Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, PhD, IBCLC, FAPA.

Many medications including some antidepressants are compatible with breastfeeding. Contact a Leader or InfantRisk for more information.

My Story of Breastfeeding and Postpartum Depression, LLL USA blog

My emotions postpartum are all out of whack, LLL USA Facebook

Why is Mothering Lonely When We are Never Alone?, LLL USA blog

“I’m Failing at This!”, LLL USA blog



What Can A Support Person Do? (PDF), LLL USA

Supporting Nursing Moms at Work, US Dept of Health and Human Services

The CDC Guide to Strategies to Support Breastfeeding Mothers (PDF), CDC

Breastfeeding and the law– including break time for lactating parents and state laws to protect breastfeeding and pumping

Feeding the New Mother, LLLI


La Leche League: My Safe Space, LLL USA blog

La Leche League Love and Support Across the Generations, LLL USA blog

La Leche League: Breastfeeding Support and the Military Family, LLL USA blog

Continuing Support through La Leche League, LLL USA blog

I Finally Feel Like Her Mother, LLL USA blog

Breastfeeding Camaraderie, LLL USA blog

Single Parenthood: Finding My Community, LLL USA blog

Finding Your People, LLLI blog

I’m feeling stuck at home. Where can I go?, LLL USA Facebook

How can I feel less touched out?, LLL USA Facebook



Please contact a local LLL Leader with your specific questions.

Medical questions and legal questions should be directed to appropriate health care and legal professionals.


Page updated January 2020